By Renee’ Fulkerson
Definition of lonely:
Being without company : LONE
Cut off from others : SOLITARY
Not frequented by human beings : DESOLATE
Sad from being alone : LONESOME
Producing a feeling of bleakness or desolation
I myself have had feelings of loneliness focus on the word feelings. When I verbally expressed this to a friend, she reminded me that this was a state of mind and not the reality of the matter. That got me thinking yes, I could reach out via phone, facetime, Skype or physically show up to another human being and connect.
Although that last part may be a bit more difficult given our current situation.
I have been able to continue to teach my regularly scheduled YogAlign classes and for that I am very grateful. Why because I work with a small group of regulars and one student generously offered to host our YogAlign classes at her home. Which of course has not been the case for many yoga teachers, students and beyond.
For the students including myself that meet several times a week for YogAlign this is part of our community, relationships and for some a lifeline. We are able to continue to move our bodies, fill our diaphragm with deep full breaths and best of all smile and laugh with one another. Keeping our spirits as well as our immune system/ body, happy and healthy!
My mom is a perfect example of a lonely state of mind. She is in her early seventies and has attended her regular exercise classes at her local YMCA for years. This weekly ritual has been her life line as she lives alone. She was able to join in community with others in group classes, socialize a bit before and after classes and then get her personal workout on. Due to our current situation and not having that resource she has an is having all the feelings mentioned above.
Across the ocean on Kauai where myself, husband and teenage son live he too is feeling some degrees of loneliness. For him it is manifesting in feelings of boredom, unmotivated and lack of engagement. For most seventeen-year old’s school on a weekly basis is their life line. Meeting in community for classes, socializing during lunch, before and after school. With his school being completely virtual (online) he is missing out also on connection.
The Solution? Sometimes you haft to get creative.
We packed up all things precious to a seventeen year old (his gaming computer) and sent him across the ocean to his grammys. This was not necessarily easy for dear old mom and dad however, it felt right and he was all for it. Although none of us were sure how this would unfold? I haft to say we all have been pleasantly surprised with the outcome thus far.
It has been a little over a month now and there is more comradery, movement and breath on both parts. How? Aside from having a change they both are doing for each other. Meaning my mom is motivated to get up and get creative with cooking, work in the yard and take walks with her grandson. Joaquin is spending less time gaming (on his computer) out of boredom, also cooking, running errands and again taking walks with his grams. With more movement, breath and a few laughs this keeps their mind, immune system/ body, happy and healthy.
Remembering loneliness is a state of being (a feeling) is half the battle.
I have mentioned in other blog post that we are able to connect with the physical sometimes easier than spiritual as it is more tangible. That being said we can connect with unpleasant feeling just as easily to pleasant feelings such as joy. Once we are able to get motivated and get our bodies moving be it gardening, going for a walk or practicing YogAlign some level of joy is going to follow. You have everything on your side to succeed breath, purposefulness and movement. Maybe you won’t always have a partner by your side however, you still can create joy. I find listening to music with headphones or book on tap/ podcast while participating in activity proves to be a great companion.
Movement does not always haft to be a grand gesture. Washing the car is a pretty good workout.
Being a YogAlign teacher does mean I am going to follow a certain guideline of postures to teach and practice during class. That being said I never show up to teach with a planned class I teach to the energy of the students. During these last 6 months the energy has varied from day to day. With some comments before class being, I am just happy I am awake and got here. To follow up comments after class “am I going to be a lump today”? YogAlign was my big accomplishment for the day. To I now feel motivated to get others things done after my YogAlign class. All good stuff and I recommend honoring how you feel somedays you need to be a lump and other days a firecracker.
I like to be playful when the energy feels heavy. Example after travel has opened back up some of my students who also happen to be grandparents will be traveling to see their precious grandchildren. Some of those grandchildren are infants and toddlers who of course spend most of their independent time on the floor. Because they are starting to lift their heads out of curiosity and necessity to create the natural curves in their spines. Littles are born with a C shaped spine and with head lifting and crawling they start to create the natural S curves in their spine. That being said we practice YogAlign postures that will allow them to get down on the floor, move around comfortably and trust their bodies to preform pain-free doing something they love with someone they love. When students are laying on their back on the floor getting in their last full body stretch or self-massage thinking savasana (final resting pose) is next I instruct to come to standing. And we all agree that there are not too many times during the day when you come to standing from lying on your back on the floor. Then we have glorious and well deserved final resting pose.
Practicing getting up and down off the floor from a lying on your back or stomach posture a few times. It’s all about movement.
That is the beauty of practicing YogAlign pain-free yoga from your inner core it is all about real life movements. Practicing movements that reflect who you are and how you live and want to live your life. We all have the ability to tap into feeling joy instead of loneliness and movement with breath is a beautiful way to get there.
See you on the mat.